What languages do you speak?
What is your personal definition of “doula”?
Doulas can be so many things; a facilitator for rest and self care, a validating and empathetic listener, a resource sharer, a nourishing cook, a diaper expert, a source of reassurance that you are doing everything right…. the list goes on. Doulas are here to support birthers and their families during a time of incredible transition and vulnerability, to hold space for questions, fears, doubts, joys, and learning. We bring our lived and learned knowledge and experience, and do everything we can to ease your transition into parenthood.
What brought you to birth and postpartum work?
I have worked with children in many different capacities over the years as a camp counsellor, babysitter, and nanny. Kids and I have always had an affinity which I attribute to my zany nature and emotionally intelligent communication style. After a two year contract ended with a family I cared for, I took a step back to figure out what it was I liked about caregiving and realized that I wasn’t just in it for the kids – I loved supporting entire families. Getting to know and supporting parents through the ups and downs of parenthood (and life) was a huge joy for me. I decided I wanted to dig into that deeper, and found my way to Wise Women’s Way of Birth and their postpartum program and haven’t looked back. Supporting birthers and families during this time of healing and growth is such a privilege. I still work regularly with a few very special families with older kids who benefit from my services, but babies and parents really have my heart. It is such a gift to be a part of the birthing journey!
In a climate of caregiver burnout, how are you caring for yourself?
Balancing my time is absolutely my focus! During the pandemic I worked 5 days a week, 8-10 hours a day caring for two toddlers and I realized quickly that this kind of work requires a lot of recharge time. I now aim for a 4 day work week, and limit my hours when I need more space to recover so I can offer my full self to my practice. I also have a ton of creative projects on the go at all times (I stream TTRPGs online, make physical art, and sing!) which really eases stress and reminds me of who I am and what is important to me.
What is a standout book, movie/tv, etc about the childbearing/parenting journey that you return to?
Oddly enough, the podcasts that resonate with me the most are not about childbearing or parenting and more about emotional intelligence, mindfulness, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness. Finding the Middle Path and the Skillful Project are two of my favorites.
- Postpartum Certification, Wise Women’s Way of Birth
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy Course Completion.
FOR YOUR PERSONAL LEARNING, WHAT IS THE WORKSHOP/TRAINING ON YOUR RADAR?
- I would love to take the DAFGP Cultural Safety Training so I can offer my services to indigenous families through the BC Association of Aboriginal Friendship Centre’s grant program.
Mothers are made. Kaiti’s work with our new family and son starting at three months old helped me become a mother. Kaiti found us in a state of overwhelm and in the midst of a difficult adjustment (colic, poor sleep, food allergies) and we are now a happy family of three navigating the future. Kaiti is an expert on babies, their sleep, feeding, and is attuned, sensitive and empathetic. We’ve been through solids, sleep training, and baby proofing with Kaiti. They have a knack for supporting mothers in just the right way. They are a wealth of knowledge, efficient with all baby and home tasks, and helped us turn our apartment with a stroller in the corner into a child friendly family home! We are forever grateful Kaiti came into our lives, and our now 8 month old adores them!
Kaiti is a reverse hurricane. They bring the same energy but leave your kids clean and clothed, your house organized, and with a cup of tea in your hand. They provide empathetic and genuine care for my autistic son and my normal hurricane of a toddler, and relieve so much of the day to day stress of parenthood. My sons love her and she loves them.